Ben Harper will soon have to steal his kisses from someone else. After nearly five years of marriage, the singer’s marriage to actress Laura Dern is coming to an end.

On Friday, Harper officially filed for divorce from the Oscar nominee. This move comes months after the two reportedly separated. “Irreconcilable differences” were listed as the reason on court documents.

Laura and Ben, wed in December 2005, have two children together. The Grammy winner is seeking joint custody of their nine-year-old son and five-year-old daughter.

Prior to meeting Harper, Dern had been engaged to actor Billy Bob Thornton. That relationship ended when Thornton became involved with his Pushing Tin costar, Angelina Jolie.