When I was younger, I used to have the worst time dealing with anger. I’d kick things, throw things, break things, hit things, whatever I could do to get the anger out of me (sometimes I’d even hit people). I’ve been through many, many psychologists, social workers, anger management counselors(sp?) etc., and I thought as I got older, my anger settled down. Well today we had a state tournament for soccer and we made it all the way up to the finals. The end of regulation was 0-0, we had 2 golden goal halves and those ended 0-0. We went into PK’s and I missed mine which cost us the game. Well we lined up to shake hands and I didn’t shake anyone’s hand. Their coach tried to talk to me but, I just pushed him away. I took my 2nd place trophy and threw it on the ground and later when I got home, I snapped it in half. After all that, I’ve come to realize that my anger really hasn’t gotten any more controlled than it used to be. It’s just that nothing has really angered me since. How do I deal with it so I don’t break/hit/kick/punch stuff?

wow… how old are you? and when were you “younger”? you should take 10 min or more from each day and just sit still but dont sleep. when you feel your anger rising try to calm yourself and think about what would happen afterwards if you hit someone or broke something. its hard right when it starts but the longer you can stay calm, the better it gets and you’ll cool down.

maybe just looking at things in perspective in a very broad sense of the world. Such as… your a pretty good athlete, a lot of ppl in the world are crippled and all that stuff.

scarface
Mel: everyday above ground is a good day.

Mel: now thats the spirit!
Tony: Ok Mel. (then goes to michelle pfiffers table to hit on her)

even though Tony kills him 10 mins later!

bleh… one of my psychologists told me to do that… it doesn’t work. usually what happens for me is i’m calm in front of every1 and once im away from it all, i snap and go crazy.

[quote author=“jeff”]maybe just looking at things in perspective in a very broad sense of the world. Such as… your a pretty good athlete, a lot of ppl in the world are crippled and all that stuff.

scarface
Mel: everyday above ground is a good day.

Mel: now thats the spirit!
Tony: Ok Mel. (then goes to michelle pfiffers table to hit on her)

even though Tony kills him 10 mins later!

that doesnt seem to work either. like when i throw away food that i dont feel like eating some1 would say “think about all those starving people in africa” and i just say “do i look like one of those people? is it my fault they’re starving?” and leave.

how old are you?

every now and then, if i get really upset, i’ll break stuff, but its all stuff i can get replaced, haha.

ever try buying a punching bag? that’s something you can beat on, and there won’t be any reprocussions, except for some sore knuckles…

old enough :-D :wink:

i could have gotten my trophy replaced while i was there, but i was too angry to go back and ask for a new one. and now that im sitting here and more calm than i was earlier, i regret that i didnt go back to get one.

old enough, lol…so should i guess immature teenager? :?

guess whatever you want… just know that you’ll never know

take up boxing or throw beer bottles either works for me

um..ok

but then… if he guesses… Then it’d be no suprise of your anger because at 5 years old, kids tend to have alot of “temper tantrums” 

[quote author=“plugg3d in”]take up boxing or throw beer bottles either works for me

Does throwing beer bottles really work? I saw it on that movie Haggard.

[quote author=“gunsnbam”][quote author=“plugg3d in”]take up boxing or throw beer bottles either works for me

Does throwing beer bottles really work? I saw it on that movie Haggard.

Of course. You know how fun it is to smash one botthe over a bench? Try whipping 12 at a building

Also, so does shooting things… (with a 22)

[quote author=“DMoney24”]When I was younger, I used to have the worst time dealing with anger. I’d kick things, throw things, break things, hit things, whatever I could do to get the anger out of me (sometimes I’d even hit people). I’ve been through many, many psychologists, social workers, anger management counselors(sp?) etc., and I thought as I got older, my anger settled down. Well today we had a state tournament for soccer and we made it all the way up to the finals. The end of regulation was 0-0, we had 2 golden goal halves and those ended 0-0. We went into PK’s and I missed mine which cost us the game. Well we lined up to shake hands and I didn’t shake anyone’s hand. Their coach tried to talk to me but, I just pushed him away. I took my 2nd place trophy and threw it on the ground and later when I got home, I snapped it in half. After all that, I’ve come to realize that my anger really hasn’t gotten any more controlled than it used to be. It’s just that nothing has really angered me since. How do I deal with it so I don’t break/hit/kick/punch stuff?

It just came back because of frustration. Trust me, I also play soccer. And on the last game of one season that decided wether we stayed in our division or not my friend got fouled and the other team scored in the last second. I went crazy on the ref. Just remember you have to take responsibility for whatever you did, so the less crazy you go the easier it will be after. I ended up getting a red card…nothing to bad.

[quote author=“ridv3490”][quote author=“DMoney24”]When I was younger, I used to have the worst time dealing with anger. I’d kick things, throw things, break things, hit things, whatever I could do to get the anger out of me (sometimes I’d even hit people). I’ve been through many, many psychologists, social workers, anger management counselors(sp?) etc., and I thought as I got older, my anger settled down. Well today we had a state tournament for soccer and we made it all the way up to the finals. The end of regulation was 0-0, we had 2 golden goal halves and those ended 0-0. We went into PK’s and I missed mine which cost us the game. Well we lined up to shake hands and I didn’t shake anyone’s hand. Their coach tried to talk to me but, I just pushed him away. I took my 2nd place trophy and threw it on the ground and later when I got home, I snapped it in half. After all that, I’ve come to realize that my anger really hasn’t gotten any more controlled than it used to be. It’s just that nothing has really angered me since. How do I deal with it so I don’t break/hit/kick/punch stuff? It just came back because of frustration. Trust me, I also play soccer. And on the last game of one season that decided wether we stayed in our division or not my friend got fouled and the other team scored in the last second. I went crazy on the ref. Just remember you have to take responsibility for whatever you did, so the less crazy you go the easier it will be after. I ended up getting a red card…nothing to bad.

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a red card is nothing too bad??

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a red card is nothing too bad??

  Trust me I got off easy. I could have been sent to a jury and maybe suspended from my league for the next season.

wow….the most that i ever do( i ref soccer) is give out yellows. i’ve never given out a red because there is just too much damn paperwork. hehe :D

HAHA   I guess u killed yr phsycologies after ey? I knew a kid like that, but he was screwed up 8)

when one of my anger management counselors told me to count ot 10 when i got angry i seriously felt like saying “you’re one crazy bitch” and walkin out the room.

at least you’ve recognized your problem, that’s the first step.

[quote author=“plugg3d in”][quote author=“gunsnbam”][quote author=“plugg3d in”]take up boxing or throw beer bottles either works for me

Does throwing beer bottles really work? I saw it on that movie Haggard.

Of course. You know how fun it is to smash one botthe over a bench? Try whipping 12 at a building

Also, so does shooting things… (with a 22)

Well I’m shootin stuff all the time with a 9mm, 45, 12 gage….I guess it might help so through bottles

I thought da first step was denial :?

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Of course. You know how fun it is to smash one botthe over a bench? Try whipping 12 at a building

yep, its true….when we have expired or recalled merch in glass packing at work i love to throw it out…..it is sooooooo great to destroy things….the sound of breaking glass makes me feel a lot more relaxed for some reason.

Also, so does shooting things… (with a 22)

um…..if he has a bad temper this might not be a good thing…...... :|

[quote author=“Andreux”][quote author=“gobulls404”]at least you’ve recognized your problem, that’s the first step.

I thought da first step was denial :?

yeah…

1. denial
2. acceptance

:?

How about simply growing up? Acting like a man instead of a boy would clear that right up.

[quote author=“AndruGearLive”]How about simply growing up? Acting like a man instead of a boy would clear that right up.

Well then you must not be an angry person. Some people just are. You hold a certain type of anger in so long that when it finally appears it can go farther then you really want it to. I have one of the shortest tempers ever. Well last year I can remember a couple times the Lakers lost games by very little and I would completely freak out…

If I was by myself I would chuck the control super hard and the anger would slowly go away. If I wasn’t by myself I would go outside and just yell really loud or get a bat and start beating on a tree.

I have been told many times I have a very short fuse.

But I don’t really think I’m a mad person I think it’s that people piss me off alot and the short temper together don’t help.

I wish I could get into boxing or something but I’m afraid I would just get kicked out. I mean if I was ever beaten bad I don’t think I could take it. I think I would keep going after him until I’m knocked out or he’s done. I mean if I got into a fight I would become so enraged to the point were I could possible injure the person super severe or almost have them at death.

Wow I need therapy…  :|